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Being attracted to plus-sized individuals is great (there's even a strip club for BBWs in Vegas), but only valuing them for their weight and not for who they are is a big problem.It’s not being body positive and it’s not forward thinking — rather, it’s dehumanizing and not OK.There seems to be this idea in North American culture that if you’re plus-size then it’s impossible for you to have standards.The (faulty) logic is that if you really had them, then you wouldn’t be overweight in the first place because your standards for your own body would be different.My friend’s mom simply answered, “because they put out and you don’t.” It bothered me then and it’s continued to bother me since.

Although everyone is attracted to different people, and there’s nothing wrong with that, there’s nothing worse than being fetishized for your body type (and nothing’s less romantic than being leered at you while you eat your food).I once had a guy who claimed to be my age, but when we met face to face he looked like he was old enough to have fathered a child my age, if not older. For a lot of plus-sized individuals, myself included, there’s this unspoken anxiety that comes when ordering food.I suspect it’s because these types of people assume that, as a plus-sized woman, I must be so desperate for love that it’s OK for them to lie about their looks. For example, if you order a salad then you might think everyone’s judging you for being that “fat chick” who’s trying to lose weight.I take pride in my appearance, my work, and every other aspect of my life. Just because I’m plus-size doesn’t mean that you can wear sweatpants to a fancy restaurant when meeting my parents.I've found that something about being plus-size causes people to assume that, if you don't have a partner, then you must be lonely.

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