Dating violence bystander
Click through to see how students create a healthier community.(CNN) -- Lauren Astley knew her ex-boyfriend was having a hard time getting over their breakup."Chances are, you have a friend, brother, sister or neighbor who will be affected by relationship violence," she said."The question is, how good of a friend, brother, sister or neighbor are you going to be?Finding a new normal Questions about what could've been done differently arose recently in Steubenville, Ohio, in Torrington, Connecticut, and in other communities where teen dating violence and sexual assault drew national attention.Blame bounces around the victim's clothes, the amount she drank, whether she "put herself in that situation," and to the perpetrators, parents and society for fostering a culture in which violence among teens -- sexual and otherwise -- makes regular headlines.
Nate had shown signs of jealousy in the past, but nobody suspected he would hurt Lauren." Schools have taken on the work of teaching adolescents about substance abuse, sex and in some cases, preventing dating violence. Evidence shows that classroom education based on lectures and activities can help, as well as programs that enlist coaches to talk to high school athletes about dating violence.It takes more than classroom education to change cultural norms, Banyard said.Nathaniel Fujita hadn't wanted to end their three-year relationship.He made it clear in a long e-mail, asking her to give him a chance to find "a part of you that still loves me." But after several "negotiated truces," as her mother calls them, it was over in May 2011, a few weeks before their graduation from Wayland High School in Massachusetts.